Weddings

What Should I Register For?

We finally started working on our registry and let me tell you–it is not easy. Conor and I are in our 30s and have a pretty good idea of what we need, but there are a few things we’re on the fence about.

So far, we both like the idea of new linens, nice wine glasses, cookware, and good knives. If we didn’t love our Away luggage, we’d register for that, too. The thought of finding a mismatched set of vintage china excites me more than a set of china from Bloomingdales, but will I wish I carried on the wedding china tradition in 20-30 years?Neither of us are crazy about the idea of owning anything we won’t use regularly, but something similar to what’s in the photo above would be lovely, wouldn’t it?

Should we get a pressure cooker? Are there any amazing kitchen tools we need? Help.

What do you love and use every day? What do you wish you didn’t register for? 

  • Janine

    We didn’t register, because we have been living together for a couple years, and not a lot of storage space for excess items. When things have broken down, we’ve done the research and bought good quality items to replace them. There are some things I can think of – the Instant Pot (we LOVE ours – and it does so many different things that you can reduce down to one machine), possibly an extra set or two of bath towels just for convenience, any pillows/blankets/sheets/towels for if guests stay overnight, picture frames, and checking around to see if anything you have could be upgraded (coffee pot, coffee grinder, blender, etc).

  • We have ad the same struggle thinking of what to registrar for — we really don’t need anything and if we want something we can normally buy it for ourselves. We asked for a new Dyson vacuum and registered with Zola — they allow you to do a “honeymoon fund” so we added a few actives/ dinners to that one! Good luck!

    xo, Sarah

    • Zola seems like the way to go! Love the honeymoon fund idea!

  • jaimemckee

    We registered for stuff we really wanted and needed. I have a KitchenAid mixer my grandma bought us. It’s going on 10 years (how have I been married 10 years??) and I love my mixer. I don’t use it every day, but I use it often enough. What I regret registering for is silver. We were guilted into registering at one particular store because 10 years ago there were some family members who didn’t want to shop online. The box of silver is in my garage and has never been used. We didn’t register for china, because another grandma gave me her set. I love the idea of passing it along to one of my children one day. We also registered for some daily dishes. I remember thinking it was crazy that we had 2 sets of these dishes on our registry, but it turns out dishes can break! We’re on our second set.

    • Silver and China are so lovely and I completely get the tradition of it, but I know I’ll never use it. A friend was just telling me she hasn’t used her china once in four years, and she’s way more likely to entertain than I would be. We just got new everyday dishes so all set there!

  • Kim Beg

    Seriously, do not register for china. I think I’ve used ours twice in 18 years. Depends what you love ( cooking, etc.) and what you need. I love my vitamix, nespresso, kitchen aid, panini maker…. Love the honeymoon fund idea!

  • Stacy

    Since my husband and I love to travel and didn’t want any “stuff”, we asked for Marriott or Delta giftcards. Both sites allow you to create a link where people can purchase giftcards and email them directly to you. Nicer than Zola in a way, since no one has to pay fees.

  • Lauren R

    Serving bowls and platters, Linen baskets, Food containers, Sheets of course. I wanted to register for china and my husband convinced me that if I really wanted it after the wedding we could save up for it. Glad we did that because I will likely never buy it and instead just inherit from my mother/mother in law, much more sentimental. I liked browsing crate and barrel’s registry ideas. I also had linen baskets up there because I constantly needed storage in our new home and buying box/basket after basket can add up!

  • Ceci

    A Vitamix!!

  • Amy Austin

    Since we got married and each have had kitchen + dining supplies for years—we didn’t register anywhere. We figured, if our family and friends want to give us a gift they will do that. It was so fun to open these gifts and we appreciated each one! One sis-in-law gave us a bag full of super cute kitchen items, along with a cookbook, Cooking for Two, every time we use them I appreciate that thoughtfulness:)

  • A pressure cooker!!! I didn’t register for one, but my mother-in-law insisted on getting one for us and it’s the best. It’s awesome for prepping rice, meat, veggies, etc. I use this item the most since I do a lot of meal prepping. I can’t emphasize this one enough!

    Do some honeymoon things too! We got some money to go to a really nice restaurant in Rome (where we went) along with some money for some Roman tourist spots. If you can register for those kind of gifts, even better. Get some honeymoon experiences– you’ll so appreciate these times the most.

  • I think I mentioned it before but I too had a very small wedding, less than 20 people. So my husband and I decided we didn’t want to register. We felt that it was a gift enough to us for our guest to be a part of our small intimate and did not want think about receiving gifts. We did tell our guests that if they wanted to donate to an organization, such as Save the Children, The SPCA or any other charity we would love that and they did. And some people brought small gifts and cards but we kept the feeling of the wedding about being grateful for our love, our family and friends and for all that we have. I know people love to register so no judgement it just wasn’t for us. I have bought myself some Le Cruset pots and pans overtime and I know people register for those and I highly suggest them because they are great products and they have so many great items.
    Sharon
    http://www.forthewonderer.com

  • seminegar

    Since the two of you have been adulting for 10+ years, follow your gut. If you’re questioning an item, maybe wait. The two of you are successful entrepreneurs so if you change your mind about cookware or dishes, you can get them whenever. If you’re worried about heirlooms, those hand selected antique plates you gradually collect will prob mean a lot more to your family anyway. You could always opt to suggest a charity or honeymoon fund, home building fund, or gift card.

  • Jessica I

    Hi Danielle,

    I got married 5 years ago after living with my husband for 5 years. We love to cook and love to entertain. Did we have a lot? Sure but we did a traditional registry. Cooking stuff was our top priority – all clad (last a lifetime), wustof knives, tools we will use every day (big spoons, spatulas, wisks, immersion blender, etc. in good quality – actually check out Ina Garten’s website she links stuff that she uses all the time and I trust her!) and then came our china and crystal. I registered for both bec I not only love this stuff and tho I don’t use a lot now, who knows what I’ll use in 10 years? And this is prob the only time in your life where you can ask for big ticket items. It does seem like you entertain a lot. It would be nice to have another set of dishes and linens for nice dinner parties or get togethers with friends and hosting Conor’s family. Anyways my 2cents!

  • Jana McKay

    If you actually really have everything that makes cooking and living enjoyable, then I wouldn’t add more STUFF to the list. I liked the suggestion of one person about travelling/hotel gift certificates. I personally also like things I run out if time for like grocery shopping and tried blue apron once with awesome re-usable recipes and the groceries delivered to my house door had great quality. I am from Germany where cash is a very common wedding gift, not sure if that can be pulled off here …but me and my hubby spend it years later on our baby moon trip and new down comforters 😉 Good Luck!

  • Karla

    I received heirloom china as an engagement gift, it was my grandmother’s wedding china she gave to my parents as a wedding gift! It’s Noritake from 1949, I’m very lucky it’s bone white, silver, grey and light blue and has a small vintage floral pattern in a modern color scheme.

    If this were not the case, I would want to start with a few salad plates or the wider shallow bowl to go with our kitchen full of nice white dinnerware. That way you can be fancy when you want to be 🙂 with a pretty piece layered on nice dinnerware.

    I personally love a mismatched, yet color coordinated, table setting and vintage china, even in a small amount, really adds something special. Besides it could be something you find randomly piece by piece, and at your table you would have a story to tell for each of the items. 🙂

    Cheers!

  • I registered for china and wish I wouldn’t have. I’ve used it once. Now with two young kids, I don’t think I’ll use it for 5-10 years. It’s a pain to move and I try to sell it each time, but I’ll never get even close to what it’s worth. At least the pattern is timeless (still for sale at Bloomingdale’s 10+ years later). If I had been given heirloom china, I think I’d feel differently.

    My favorite household items are my Dyson cord-free stick vacuum, Blendtec, Le Creuset pieces, good knives and crockpot.

  • Claire

    I think I am the anomaly here, but I registered for china and I absolutely love it! It was why I registered! I love the tradition of it being passed down. My mom has pieces from her mom and grandmother. I registered for a blue & white pattern from Arte Italica – it is an elegant/casual pattern so I use it anytime we have guests – i.e. it is not so formal that I feel like I can only use it on super special occasions. If you order something that fits your lifestyle (ie casual/festive entertaining, not sit down formal dinner parties) then I think it works. Here was my pattern:
    http://www.arteitalica.com/dinnerware/collection/burano/burano-dinner-plate

    My favorite things that I registered for: a faux fur blanket from Pottery Barn and a food processor and kitchen aide mixer. We didn’t have kitchen gadgets before and they make me feel like an adult lol. I know you guys are in the middle of decorating your apartment – anything else you need?

    Have fun!!!

  • When we were at a wine tour a few years ago, someone was telling us about couples who register for reserve wine that is for ageing. With the idea that you can open the bottle on your 5, 10, or 20 year anniversary.

  • Samanthas BrewedAwakening

    I was the same way about China! At first, I thought I wanted the good knives and pots more, but then 2 weeks before my wedding I regretted not registering for China so I added it on. I got about half of it, and have been filling the collection out myself since. I also only registered for key pieces: the big dishes, the tea cups (I love coffee), and soup bowls. I have no need for a bread and butter dish. I chose a beautiful white dish with a fancy gold edge, but I also love the idea collecting it over the years from antique shops! You will have so much fun doing that and it will look beautiful. Either way, USE IT. I can’t stress that enough. I use mine weekly. Sunday morning pancakes with the husband always feels even more special with China! Coffee in bed? China tea cup it is! Don’t save it just for fancy dinner parties and don’t be afraid to dress it down. It can’t really be so fun and special and doesn’t have to be stuffy like people associate it sometimes.

  • Samanthas BrewedAwakening

    I was the same way about China! At first, I thought I wanted the good knives and pots more, but then 2 weeks before my wedding I regretted not registering for China so I added it on. I got about half of it, and have been filling the collection out myself since. I also only registered for key pieces: the big dishes, the tea cups (I love coffee), and soup bowls. I have no need for a bread and butter dish. I chose a beautiful white dish with a super funky/edgy gold edge, but I also love the idea collecting it over the years from antique shops! You will have so much fun doing that and it will look beautiful. Either way, USE IT. I can’t stress that enough. I use mine weekly. Sunday morning pancakes with the husband always feels even more special with China! Coffee in bed? China tea cup it is! Don’t save it just for fancy dinner parties and don’t be afraid to dress it down. It can really be so fun and special and doesn’t have to be stuffy like people associate it sometimes. (Also, people tend not to use it because it’s expensive and they are afraid of ruining it. First, don’t be afraid, it’s just a dish. Second, the reason China is expensive is because it is soooo much more durable than regular dinnerware! it’s not easy to break.) Keep us posted with what you decide on!

  • Jenny Dean

    I’d encourage you trust your gut, and not register for anything you feel like you “should”. Big utility items like a Vitamix, food processor, and Kitchen Aid were a must for me – and I use them all the time, because we cook a lot.

    I didn’t register for China because there wasn’t anything I was in love with at the time. It’s also not really my style. A few years later I laid down a decent amount of money on set of whimsical Anthropologie dinnerware that I loved, and that makes me happy whenever I use it. I echo the sent sentimates of a previous poster – don’t be afraid to use things you love!!

    The other thing we did was a honey fund- which we were super specific about. We went to Italy and registered for things like specific cooking classes in Montepulciano, buying a painting from a street vendor and having it framed, canal side dinners in Venice at a resataurant we read about, ECT. They were gifts that our loved ones got really excited about, and were so fun to gush about and share photos upon our return.

    Congrats!!!

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