How We Met

This is a post I’ve avoided sharing for almost two years but it’s been a good week and I’m feeling sentimental.

In case you haven’t noticed, I have a brand new website which I’ll talk more about soon, one of my best friends had a baby, Conor and I booked a trip to Portugal, and it’s almost Valentine’s Day. I’m not a fan of Chocolates, red roses, or prix fixe menus but it finally feels like the right time to share the story of how we met.

I used to wish that Conor and I had some romantic story to tell but the truth is that we met when we both swiped right.

Yes. Conor’s a Tinderman.

our first trip to Miami in 2015

I had just downloaded Tinder again after going on a break and we realized that we had a few friends in common on Facebook. Google how Tinder works if you don’t know what I’m talking about. Conor grew up with Liz and went to jr. high with my Everygirl cofounder Alaina.

It was finally summer and I was at the pool with my friend Katie. Conor and I had been messaging (via Tinder, obviously) so I sent Alaina a text to ask her about him. She assumed we had met at our yard sale 3 days prior since Conor had stopped by, but he happened to show up while I was out getting coffee. We lived 5 minutes from one another and he was at my yard sale, but it took Tinder for us to meet.

I actually told people we met at a yard sale those first few months but eventually embraced our story. So much of my life is online that it would make sense I’d meet someone that way, right?

Alaina hadn’t seen him in years but said he was nice guy and that I should go out with him. And he told me he had seen Alaina’s posts about our company on Facebook which saved me from having to explain what I do and how I make money on a first date. Or dodging what I do because my life is a little more googleable than most. And even better, I knew he wasn’t a serial killer and let him pick me up at my place, which made things feel a lot more first datey.

Charleston, September 2015

We went to Sportsman’s Club for drinks and after a few hours of talking, ended up getting dinner at The Dawson. I heard from him the next day and the following evening, he came to a concert with me and a few friends. Matt and Kim (the band) set the mood for what felt like the opposite of a romantic 2nd date. Kim offered to do some really inappropriate things to the room full of 18-22 year olds that we felt extremely out of place in, so Conor saved the night by taking me to The Green Mill for cocktails and jazz.

Conor canceled a date with another girl that weekend, we both deleted tinder, and 4 days later, he invited me to  join him, his mom, and stepdad for drinks on the lake. He kew it was a little early to meet the parents but I didn’t have plans and he thought it would be fun. And his mom is the best so it was a good move.

At the risk of sounding sappy, it was different from the beginning. I never wondered if he was interested or when I’d hear from him. Ever. Our relationship is obviously not perfect and we’ve had our bumps in the road like all couples do, but the past (almost) two years have been some of the best years of my life.

And now you know the truth. I fell in love with a Tinderman.

Tuscany, Italy, June 2016

ps  “Tinderman” should be said like a last name (i.e. Lieberman) and like superhero (spiderman). It should sound more like tindermin than anything.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Have you tried online dating? Have any questions about it? I’d love to hear more in the comments below!

  • Mimi Napleton Collins

    Love hearing your story and so happy you both swiped right!

    • Me too! And I’m so glad you’ve been a part of it. 🙂 Did anyone in the family actually buy our whole yard sale story at the beginning or did you all know we met on Tinder right away? Ha.

  • Lauren Corso

    Met my husband on Tinder also 😉

  • “We lived 5 minutes from one another and he was at my yard sale, but it took Tinder for us to meet.” — That’s your romantic story right there 🙂 I am really happy for you and Tinderman!

  • Amy Austin

    I love hearing about how people meet and end up together! That is really cool that Tinder was the way things got started:)
    I met my husband while we lived in the same apt building…….we had noticed each other every time we were in the same laundry room and it took a while to figure out we may want to go out sometime—-ha!
    I always despised having to do laundry along with strangers…….but, it actually had a good use I guess:)

    • That’s such a great story!

      • Amy Austin

        Thx! Just about the time I thought I’ll never meet a great guy–started dating in Jan. and engaged in Sept. The wedding was small and we had my sis-in-law with the great voice sing We’ve Only Just Begun, by The Carpenters:)

  • Brooke Oftedahl

    I’ve been on Tinder for the last 6 months and though i’ve gone on some dates, it hasn’t worked out for me. I seem to attract losers without jobs or guys just in it for the hook-up (which is not what i’m looking for!). I’ve been on Bumble too. Buuuuuttt i keep hearing people talk about meeting their husband/boyfriend on Tinder, so i keep trying. I love that ya’ll met this way, you’re the cutest couple. So happy for you! 🙂

    • The last guy I dated had a wife, baby, AND girlfriend. Then came Conor. I met some really nice guys online, actually, but never dated anyone for much longer than 3 months. He’s the first one that really stuck 🙂 Keep it up! I know how hard/exhausting it is. And it’s ok to take a break if you need one.

  • Ashley Brockette

    I can so relate to this. My boyfriend and I knew each other for almost two years, went the same church (small church, like really small) and were actually friends on Facebook. It took Bumble for us to connect on a romantic level (well, that and both finally being single at the same time). Much like you said in your post, we met each other parents early than most would expect and I never worried about his intents or if he was going to ghost on me. It has been different, and healthy from day one. So refreshing coming from my crazy past relationships.

    Cheers to you both and how you met. Gotta love technology. 🙂

    • Crazy how that works, isn’t it? So happy for you both! Happy almost 2 years!

  • Awwwww you two are adorable! I met my boyfriend because our moms are in the same book club back home and they set us up on a date, haha. We grew up 3 blocks away from me in Madison and I never knew he existed! Crazy how things work out 🙂

    • That’s such a cute story! Nothing like a moms’ book club setup, right?!

  • Girl, I met my husband at Duffy’s on Diversey. No shame!

  • Kellye Orihood

    Awesome story! I met my boyfriend on OK Cupid. It’ll be 4 years together on February 18.

    • One of my best friends met her now husband on OK Cupid! Happy 4 years to you!

  • This was such a fun read, Danielle! Also, I love that line of “I fell in love with a Tinderman”. Too cute! 😉
    Isn’t That Charming.

  • This is such a sweet and fun story! I’m actually seeing someone right now and we met on Bumble… but I just can’t get myself to say it! haha It will be interesting to see where things go to say the least, but loved reading this little story! Hope you’re having a great week 🙂

    • Aww, so happy for you! You’ll get there. Took us a while!

  • Jenn

    Just a great meet-cute! Thanks for sharing your story. If it wasn’t for the app, you two probably would have never connected. That’s crazy to think about. Makes me wonder how many missed connections I’ve have. I’ve been on and off Bumble for the last two years, but haven’t dated anyone longer than 3 months. The one good thing about Bumble is that it is at least forcing me to take the initiative to find a topic to talk about since the woman has to initiate the conversation. I spent my Valentine’s Day kickboxing, which is now my new favorite way to spend Valentine’s day. I would definitely recommend it as an activities for all your readers out there!

    • Love the holiday reference! Also love kickboxing. Definitely worth staying online since you really never know who you’ll meet.

  • Maura Keeley

    Haha! I met my man on Tinder too, Danielle! For a while I would just cryptically say “online” or “at a bar” because technically, we did meet (in person) at a bar . I’ve learned to embrace it & now I love when we say we both “swiped right!”

    • Crazy! We said through friends since we had mutual friends AND he was at that yard sale. But I’m all about claiming tinder now.

  • aw this is so sweet! I’m so happy for you Danielle! You seem so happy and it sounds like Connor is a great match. It’s CRAZY how things work out because of the internet — I know I’m thankful I met H online!! xoxo

    • I didn’t know that’s how you two met! 🙂 I AM happy, so thank you! He’s a good one.

      • yes! on OKCUPID of all places… I met him the first week I signed up and then quickly deactivated my account 🙂

        • One of my best friends met her husband there! Was in her wedding last year 🙂

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  • Hah! I met a handful of guys online. One that I met on Tinder, I dated for 8 months (but he was truly cray!)… I think it’s awesome that we can connect with people online or in person, and it matters not… as long as the chance to meet is given, it’s romantic. My current BF and I met in person. We were both checking out a band at a bar with our friends. I saw him standing, incredibly tall, by the door and as my friend and I left, I squeezed his arm. David followed out after me, numbers were exchanging, a day of texting ensued and we were on a dinner date in less than 48 hours after meeting. Its been almost 2 years and I’m glad I squeezed his arm… David is my main squeeze :o)

    Congrats on the marriage of you and your Tinderman. Thanks for sharing this coincidental tale.

    With Love & Style,
    ♥ Amber

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