Keeping up

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I have debated posting this, but I want to be honest and authentic with you. After working at least 6 days a week for over half of a year, The Everygirl is live and I couldn’t be happier or more exhausted. The reality of running a graphic design studio, booking photo shoots, writing a blog, and running a website has hit me and I am trying to find a little balance. In an effort to reset my body and gain a little control over how I feel, I am following the Whole30 plan for the next month.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been told how lucky I am that I don’t have to answer to a boss, go into an office, or that it must be so nice to sleep in/ take time off whenever I want. And I am. But — I answer to clients, I live in my office/my apartment, and if I take a day off, I don’t get paid. And if I sleep it until until 9:30 , it’s because I was working until 2:00 am. I work at least 6 days a week. Most nights, I am on the computer until at least midnight. I am exhausted.

I don’t mean to sound like I am complaining. Launching The Everygirl has been a dream come true. I have never worked so hard in my entire life and couldn’t be more thrilled with the outcome. When I am not working on The Everygirl, I am thinking about The Everygirl. It means so much to me. Earlier this week, we received an email from a blogger who after reading The Everygirl, figured out what she wanted to do with her life. This made my year. To think that I have played a role in something that is inspiring girls is just the best feeling in the world. And we’ve only just begun.

I thought that things would normalize after the launch, but they seem to be just as crazy — if not crazier. I am trying to find a little balance. Something I haven’t had as we prepared for the launch. Friday nights went from dinner and drinks to sitting on the couch with Buddy because I just couldn’t move at the end of the day. I finally went out last Saturday and had so much fun. I needed it and must remember to take more time for myself. I don’t know that I’ve ever been more thankful for Alaina. I’ve said it at least a million times, but she is the best. She has my back, challenges me in the best possible ways, makes things happen, makes me smile/laugh all the time, and is always there for me.

I know I’ve been posting about The Everygirl a lot the past few weeks and promise that this won’t be the only topic on my blog. I’d love to get back to my usual routine but imagine that it will take some time until I find a little balance. I hope you’ll hang in there as I figure things out.

And now…back to work.

my office via stoffer photography for rue magazine
  • Tiffany @ Savor Home

    Loved this post and can definitely relate. I am scheduled to have dinner with friends tonight, but after a 60 hour week, I just want to be in bed by 9. Balance is so hard, but so necessary and I know that. Its just so hard to obtain! Thinking of you and good luck!

  • christin

    Again, I say, why you gotta make me cry in the mornings? I love The Everygirl and am telling everyone I know to read it for inspiration.

    And you, my friend, deserve a break! I can't understand the stress of taking a day off and not getting paid or working non-stop, but you are amazing and hard work always pays off!


  • Lauren {Stylized Existence}

    Danielle – I have done a whole30 before (and I still eat that way 95% of the time when I am not doing a Whole30). I think it will really help you bring some more balance into your life and your body, but try not to stress if you aren't 100% compliant for the entire 30 days, especially given your pretty tense lifestyle. It's amazing what we can do if we feed our body whole foods, but don't stress about the food. Also, you could try putting up blackout curtains before bed to get more quality sleep since you're not getting a lot in quantity right now! Hang in there, everyone is loving the Everygirl, and I am sure once you get into a rhythm it will get easier! hugs.

  • hrcktheherald

    I'm intrigued by this Whole30 plan– off to check it out.

    You have worked SO hard, and you DO deserve to take time for yourself.

  • Jill Draycott

    Taking a day off when you are freelance or work for yourself is so important. Remember to do that and "unplug" when you do.

    By the way Everygirl site is amazing! Great job.


  • Lauren

    Take time for yourself! You deserve it and need it. We'll still be here ๐Ÿ™‚ Thanks for doin' what you do.

  • Lauren

    Take time for yourself! You deserve it and need it. We'll still be here ๐Ÿ™‚ Thanks for doin' what you do.

  • Liz {Sequins And Stripes}

    Take some time to breathe, we will be waiting when you rest + recharge!

  • designchic

    I love the Everygirl and can see why you eat, drink, and breathe it. So hard to start something without it consuming your life for a while…so worth all of your efforts – it's fabulous!

  • J.Mill

    I like hearing about your success! I'm a recent follower, but I find you inspiring and I love it when bloggers are honest. Yes, many great blogs have fresh content, beautiful pictures and a wonderful story to tell. But what about the missed deadlines? The out-takes? The failures?

    You certainly haven't failed, but it is glad to know that you were human along your successful path!

  • The Frosts

    Best of luck getting some much needed rest. Please let us know how the Whole30 goes – I'd love to see if it's something I might be able to tackle myself!

  • Kessler

    This is such a beautiful work space!

  • Sheri Ann {Sprinkles and Style}

    The work you've done for The Everygirl and with your graphic design studio is amazing, truly. You deserve a break to relax and unwind. We'll all still be here after you've recharged!


    No one will take better care of you than YOURSELF

    Happy Friday

    Patty //

  • Caitlin

    I've always loved your honesty in your posts. I can only imagine how exhausted both you and Alaina are, and I hope you know that your readers and followers only want the best for you! So if you need to slow down with posts, or wherever it is you can afford to cut back a little, that's just what needs to be done. I loved the feature on The Everygirl about balancing work and personal life–maybe refer to Jess LC for some more tips. Just remember to breathe. We all love you guys :). Hope you have a wonderful weekend.


  • Nicole

    Danielle you are an inspiration to us all! I know it must be great not answering to a boss and working in a cubicle, but you don't have that luxury of once leaving the office, you are DONE from that moment. You must feel like you always have to be working.

    And just remember, you work better and can give more if you take a refresher every once in awhile. You deserve it and don't feel guilty!

    Enjoy your weekend. Xoxo

  • Tibs

    It's extremely important to take care of yourself too.

    I hear so often people saying to me that it's so easy for me as I'm my own boss, but – like you said – it means long hours, mixing home and office, being available all the time, taking the responsibility alone etc etc. Not complaining, just saying! I wouldn't change my part, but I wouldn't call it easy either.

    Have a relaxing weekend!

  • Alaina @ Live Creating Yourself

    I was just thinking how we need a vacation… yet I see NO time for one in the near (or distant) future. Maybe Paris this summer?

    And I couldn't agree more about being grateful for having you in this with me. Know I always got your back, lady. And you've got mine.

    Sing it with me… B-I-S-T! BIST FRIENDS!

  • Dara

    We aren't going anywhere! Take the time that you need for yourself and I hope you get to enjoy at least a little bit of the weekend!

  • One Stylish Day at a Time

    Hang in there lady! Just remember, your sanity has to come first or else you will burn out. I'm the type of person constantly taking on too much in my life and that is one thing I've learned. You can't do it all and do it all well. Pick your passion and devote your energy to that. And don't forget, you have to be a passion to ๐Ÿ˜‰ Don't forget yourself!

  • Grace – Stripes and Sequins

    I hear you. The site is AMAZING… I'm so impressed with what you and Alaina have been able to do. But try to relax… you have to take time to breathe! Try to enjoy the weekend!! ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Drew {Coral Cafe}

    Keep it up, Danielle!
    One day at a time!
    I'm right there with you working into the wee hours of the morning. You're not alone.

    You're doing amazing and inspiring so many!

  • Heidi

    Good luck on your Whole30!! I just finished mine and honestly, I don't think I've ever felt so good in my life ๐Ÿ™‚

  • AM

    Your work ethic is really inspiring to me as I really need to spend more time on my business after my 9-5 if I want to make it eventually be a f/t thing. I love the EveryGirl — you and Alaina have done an amazing job! You should take a vaca (you can write a guide to finding a good trip deal on The EveryGirl so you get a feature out of it too ๐Ÿ˜‰ ).
    Ann Marie

    Ps – is that chair comfortable? I REALLY need a new desk chair (I work from home too).

  • AM

    Your work ethic is really inspiring to me as I really need to spend more time on my business after my 9-5 if I want to make it eventually be a f/t thing. I love the EveryGirl — you and Alaina have done an amazing job! You should take a vaca (you can write a guide to finding a good trip deal on The EveryGirl so you get a feature out of it too ๐Ÿ˜‰ ).
    Ann Marie

    Ps – is that chair comfortable? I REALLY need a new desk chair (I work from home too).

  • AM

    Your work ethic is really inspiring to me as I really need to spend more time on my business after my 9-5 if I want to make it eventually be a f/t thing. I love the EveryGirl — you and Alaina have done an amazing job! You should take a vaca (you can write a guide to finding a good trip deal on The EveryGirl so you get a feature out of it too ๐Ÿ˜‰ ).
    Ann Marie

    Ps – is that chair comfortable? I REALLY need a new desk chair (I work from home too).

  • Tina

    i could imagine how stressed you are right now with everything on your plate. you do so much!! and i could imagine it would get exhausting. but remember to do EXACTLY what you did on your saturday! take a day off to yourself!! you should just disconnect from facebook and Instagram and twitter and your computer all together! just ENJOY life and reflect on what you have. yes you work from home and work crazy hours at home doing everything… but that doesnt mean you're not entitled a day off too! ๐Ÿ™‚ hope everything goes a lot smoother for you, since i saw you got some excellant advice in all your comments today!

  • Tess

    I just love your desk….I'm moving into a new home in the next week and I'm really hoping to have an area in my guest room very similar to this. It's so fresh and crisp, and seems so very inviting. Thanks for sharing!

  • Lauren Hargrove

    Thank you for your honesty. So many blogs paint the picture of life with rose-colored glass – Wonderland if you may. It can be a little disheartening and honestly, I get a little frustrated. I wonder what the heck am I doing wrong that I don't live in Wonderland?

    I am a law student working 2 jobs, playing soccer, and going to school full-time. It is crazy hectic and I have my share of breakdown moments, but I also find that I do more when I am busy.

    I say this because I know you spoke of balance. Balance is a huge word in my life. I use it to justify being busy, to help me understand other people's priorities, life choices. I believe that each person has their own balance and that this balance also changes with experiences each person has. Doing all the things I do helps me maintain my balance. And when I am "off" I rework it all to get it back.

    So go ahead… Rework it. Find some time to reenergize. To be you, and all aspects thereof, because I also believe that having many things in your balance is healthy. Otherwise, if there was just one, it would mean that

  • Belle on Heels

    No wonder you're exhausted, lady! You deserve a break. You're doing a FABULOUS job!

    Since you're a fellow Frenchie lover like me, here's story to make you smile:

  • Type-A(shley)

    Thanks for keeping it real, but we adore you and The Everygirl all the same:) Just do what's best for you! If you end up blogging about The Everygirl, don't worry. You've got so many fans, we see it as an added bonus!!! With your amazing talent, I can only imagine just how busy you've been. Take time for yourself!!

  • Lindsey

    I so appreciate your honesty with your readers. Finding balance in life can be a challenging thing, but you will get there! I absolutely love how much you talk about The Everygirl! It is an amazing site and you should be so proud!

  • Day Old News

    Must be gratifying and exhausting all at once to see everything you're working at succeed! Many congrats and I hope I get the same courage to venture into new projects I've dreamt about this year!

  • Amy

    It is so hard but equally rewarding to do something that you are passionate about. Congratulations! I have The Everygirl in my favorite places on my tool bar now. As a busy mom to two kids, a part time dance instructor and fashion blogger, I can relate. Life is busy, but life is good.


  • Gina

    Best of luck with your Whole 30 challenge. To avoid sounding cheesy, it truely changed my life. After doing it back in September I have stayed Paleo about 90% of the time. The first week will be rough, you will feel lethargic and wonder what the heck you signed up for. Stick with it, that is just your body getting rid of the yuckies it has been storing. After 30 days, I felt so well rested, healthy, and my mental clarity and energy shot through the roof. Let me know if you have any questions because I have been living it for a while! Hope you love it as much as I do!

  • Nicole Kaney


    I have recently started following your blogs and Iโ€™m really enjoying them!

    Like you and many others, I thrive on being busy & challenged. I own a full time wedding planning company & just launched a vitamin company geared to brides and young professionals. A lot of people ask how I do it all and thatโ€™s a huge testament to our product line. I take our B Complex and Adrenal Support and my energy is amazing! Our products are all natural, no and include a lot of awesome ingredients such as probiotics and acai.

    I look forward to following your 30 day plan. If you have any questions about our company, weโ€™re happy to share our stories and offering advice/support.

    Nicole Kaney, Co-Founder Dream Day Essentialsโ„ข

  • Alexandria

    You can talk about the Everygirl all you want on here, because I love everything about it. But I totally understand the need to find balance, and I have total confidence that you will do it. And be totally amazing at it too ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Danielle Moss

    Thank you all for your sweet comments! They mean so much to me. xo

  • Shanelรฉ

    we will all stil be here and you definitely deserve a break!! I know know the overwhelming feeling you have. my body literally shut. down. last week. i don't work for myself but in banking (i.e. a LOT of hours/weekends) and try to make sure i post every day…so much pressure but we have to remember our bodies/health are the most important thing and put them first. you do AMAZING work and i think pretty much everyone in the blogosphere knows that so hang in there! And congrats, congrats on the everygirl launch. i <3 it.


  • Vanessa {}

    This is a great post! I'm glad you shared! I know I just started my blog recently and have felt overwhelmed at times and it's not even half as big as the Everygirl! You're doing an amazing job and I'm sure within some time things will settle! ๐Ÿ™‚

  • twobertis

    You are amazing & so inspiring. Just remember to take some time for yourself everyone so often and that all your hardwork will payoff!!! And the more you keep it honest the more your readers will stay tuned in ๐Ÿ™‚ I know I appreciate the honesty. Thanks for all the amazing posts, I hope that I can get there some day with my little blog!!!

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