Update on Dex. Horrible news…

Another update – I am at my mom’s house with Dexter right now. He doesn’t look great but is so happy I am here. As I write this he is snuggling next to me and purring. I spoke with 2 other vets and there isn’t anything we can do. I just cannot wrap my mind around putting a sweet & loving 2 year old cat to sleep.

Thank you all so much for all your love and support. I am going to get back to focusing on Dexter. I have until tomorrow afternoon with him and plan to take in every moment that I can. He is such a sweet boy. This is breaking my heart.

Update – leaving for the airport in 30 min. We will put him down late tomorrow or Wed and I’ll fly back Wed afternoon. PLEASE think good thoughts for me. I will be the one holding him as the vet puts him to sleep and it’s going to crush me. I am an absolute mess but know I won’t be near the blog for a little while. If you have a pet you can imagine my devastation. I thought I was doing what was best leaving him in LA so he could be with his kitty friend {Milo} but the guilt for not bringing him to Chicago is killing me. 

I just spoke with the vet & Dexter does have FIP. I may fly home today to spend time with him & then have him put to sleep at the house. He is not in pain but I want to be the one to monitor him and need to say goodbye.

I wish that I felt differently but I am very angry right now. Dexter is such a sweet little guy & is so young. I just feel so sad & guilty right now. I wish I had brought him to Chicago. He could have had 8 months here with me. I always try to stay positive but right now I’m just not there.

I’ll keep you updated but as of right now it looks like I’ll be heading to LA today. I had a trip booked two weeks from now so I am working on changing my flights. Thank you for your comments yesterday. They mean so much to me.

  • goodness never fails

    oh danielle. i am so sorry to hear about dex.
    where did you get dex from? he sure is one blessed kitty to have been able to spend time with you and your loving family.

  • Brittany

    Saying prayers for you and Dex. I'm sure he will be so thrilled to see you, even for a short while. I read about FIP and it's just so sad. Do they know how he got it? I'm so sorry you and your kitty are going through this. My heart breaks for you. {{hugs}} I know it's hard, but try not to feel guilty. You never know what may have happened if he came to Chicago with you. There's a reason for God wanting Dex to be with him and even though it's so hard for us to understand now, one day we will.

  • amber

    oh i'm so sorry! putting down a pet is always so hard, but he's lucky to have a mommy that will make a special trip to make sure he is taken care of. sending love your way!!

  • Mo Pie, Please

    I'm so sorry to hear about this – I know how devastating it must feel. Hang in there, good luck.

  • Lauren

    My heart breaks for you. I'm sorry you and Dexter are going through this!!!

  • Megan

    I'm so sorry to hear about this. I have a cat that if I had to put her to sleep I would probably cry myself to sleep for weeks. I hope it gets better and you are in my prayers.

  • Karen

    Oh Danielle I'm so sorry to hear this! I hope you can get back to LA soon and spend some time with your little guy. *hugs*


  • RosaLovesDC

    Again, I am so sorry. XO

  • Lauren

    :(( I am so sorry to hear that! It is very unfair to loose a little guy as such a young age πŸ™ My thoughts are with you β™₯

  • amazeingteacher

    sorry, d. i know this is so hard for you. be safe!!

  • just a girl

    Oh, this is terrible news. I am very sorry to hear it. Definitely fly home, you'll be happy you were able to spend this time with him and properly say goodbye. Again, I am so, so sorry to hear it — I know how special our pets are. My thoughts and prayers are with you both.

  • Wallpaper

    So sorry to hear this sad news, my thoughts and prayers are with you and dex.

  • christine {bijouandboheme}

    So so sorry. The loss of a pet is something only true animal lovers can understand. Thinking you. xoxo

  • K8Imming

    So sorry to hear this. I had a little kitty, Mazie, and she got FIP as well. Just know that you really are doing the best thing for him, FIP is a terrible diagnosis. My thoughts are with you.

  • Heather

    I am very sorry to hear this sad news!

  • Helena – A Diary of Lovely

    oh Danielle sending you lots of love and positive thoughts, be strong darling and dont torture yourself

  • Helena – A Diary of Lovely

    oh Danielle sending you lots of love and positive thoughts, be strong darling and dont torture yourself

  • Jenny @ Practically Perfect…

    Oh, I am so sorry πŸ™ This post made me tear up a bit. I can't imagine how sad and heartbroken you must be. It was bad enough when we gave Bear to my brother-in-law and sister-in-law, but even then I knew that he was till out there and living a fun life. If I found out that he needed to be put down, I would be a mess. I'll be thinking of you!

  • Laurie

    I am so sorry to hear this sad news, Danielle. I know how special your pets are to you!! I've had pets come and go, but never like this… I am so sorry you have to go through this very difficult time. My thoughts and prayers will be with you.

  • Katy

    I am very sorry to hear about your baby. I will be thinking good thoughts and praying for you. It is very brave of you to be there with him when it is time to say goodbye.

  • Kristie

    Oh I am so sorry. Praying for you during this difficult time…

  • Lori

    Oh Danielle, I'm sorry.
    I'm crushed for you, of course you'll be in my thoughts.
    I think he must have been very happy spending time with his kitty friend.

  • Brooklynn

    So sorry for you…we had to do that to our cat at home when he was so young. Sending virtual hugs your way.

  • The Starr Family

    Sweet Danielle… its 'best interest' that matters most. You had his best interest when you left, just as you do now & prepare to say goodbye. Pain is undeniable, but remember that you saved him from a life of uncertainty elsewhere. Thinking of you!

  • meghan

    oh no, this is so heartbreaking. keeping you and dex in my thoughts πŸ™

  • Dawn

    Oh Sweetie…I am just now seeing this…I am sooo sorry..please please do not carry that guilt around, I am sure Dex and Milo had the time of their lives together…I will be thinking of you…xoxo

  • Emily

    My heart goes out to you. My kitty, Foosa, had FIP and died before she was much older than two. I have made several photo albums and my mother-in-law painted a watercolor of her. I'm not sure we'll ever be over her, but it gets easier. It won't feel like it for awhile.

  • Nancy

    Bless your heart! I will be saying prayers for you & praying for comfort all around you. Will be thinking of you.

  • Chic ‘n Cheap Living

    I can only imagine how you feel – spend some time with Dex and sending you lots of hugs!

    Chic 'n Cheap Living

  • kay*(from india.with love)

    oh danielle. i'm so so sorry. it won't be easy but my best thoughts for comfort are with you and little dexter.

  • {Selma} Crazy Little World Of Mine

    I'm so sorry Danielle. πŸ™ Keeping you and Dex in my thoughts girl. Hugs!

  • Celeste

    Much love and prayers to you both. I cannot fathom what you are going through, and I pray that He will be able to bring you peace during this…. big hugs!!!

  • Jules

    Danielle, you are in my thoughts right now and I wish there was something I could say to make it all better. Losing a pet is never easy and I'm glad you're going to be with him. My prayers go out to you and I'm sending hugs your way.

  • Thomasina

    May God give you the strength to get through this. Please know you are in my prayers.

  • Lexie

    I'm praying for you Danielle<3

  • ashley nicole catherine

    i'm so so sorry, danielle. my heart goes out to you. in jan 2010, i had to put down my 2 1/2 year old kitty, who had an aggressive, inoperable tumor. it's not fair, but know you're doing the right thing for dexter, to keep him from suffering.


  • Sharstin

    oh girly! i am so sick for you, such a hard thing..i will be thinking of you..

  • this free bird

    So so very sorry Danielle. I understand and relate and feel terrible for you. Hugs and hugs to you right now and in the days to come. xoxo Carrie

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